Thursday, November 29, 2012

2 down...

It has been 2 months since My Love and I began our TTWD journey.  I can't believe it's been 2 months already...I can't believe it's only been 2 months!  It seems like we've been working at this forever.  We have learned so much, yet we still feel like we are fumbling around in the dark some days.  I have spent hours (and I mean hours!) researching TTWD and reading blogs and though that information has been helpful the saying "there is no teacher like experience" seems to be more than appropriate.  

I have really enjoyed watching John grow in his confidence.  He is able to make decisions and then let me know what we're doing.  He has managed to do it and still make me feel important and valued.  "You have led this family for 13 years with very little input from me, so of course I value your opinion!"  What's a girl to say to that!  And if you've been reading along you know that I was afraid of losing myself, of losing my voice in this journey. He knows that I have a strong sense of justice and struggle when I feel something isn't fair.  He always takes this into consideration before making a decision.  He takes time to explain his decision to me so that even if I don't agree, I understand.  

He is so attentive and knows me much better than I thought.  All the years I thought he wasn't paying attention...he was.  He really is an incredible man.  He is so attentive to me and knows exactly what I need.  

I can't believe how much closer this has made us.  Our communication has gotten so much better.  We talk every night.  We discuss the things we like and the things that bug us.  We are honest!  Honesty...who'd have thought that would work!  TTWD has given me a safety to talk to him and for him to talk to me.  Truthfully I think it has given him the freedom to talk without fear of what I would say or do.  He is free to express himself knowing that I will respect his opinion.  It's an amazing thing!
I didn't realize how little respect I showed him.  How little I valued his opinion and thoughts.  It's a little disheartening.
But all that is changing.  I have so much respect for him.  So much confidence in his ability to lead us.  He amazes me everyday!  

I love you John!  And I can't wait to see where you lead us to next...


14 comments:

  1. Happy two month blogaversary! And it's wonderful to hear you and John are doing so well :)
    MrBB

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  2. Experience really is the best teacher! :)

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    1. Yes it really is! Research and advice only go so far...

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  3. Ahhh, that is so good to hear! This journey can be an amazing thing. I agree with a lot of what you said....I never realized what a natural born leader Ryan was, until I stepped back and watched him flourish. Isn't is truly wonderful what a little respect can do for a man? Congratulations on your two month mile marker :D

    ~Lucy

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    1. Thanks Lucy!

      I really am amazed at how much John has grown...and you are so right about what respect will do for their confidence. Not to mention just giving them the room they need to grow. It's like a plant...it will only grow as big as the pot you've put it in. Funny thing is, the more confident he becomes the more respect I have for him!

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  4. Its been a bit longer for us, but not much it feels like. We are still learning every day, but I just love the littlest things ttwd has changed in our lives.

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  5. Welcome Julia and thanks for stopping by :)

    TTWD has definitely changed things for the better! I stopped over to your place and saw how your DH handled the visit with your friend...amazing! That's a much better resolution than days or weeks of fighting (at least that's how it would've ended here). Thanks for your support...I think I'm falling in love with this community <3

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  6. I missed this post! Congratulations on your two months. I remember that point of time well and YOU are doing much, much better than I was. Just saying...

    Here's to many more months of fruitful learning.

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    1. Susie! Thank you so much and I think you're being too kind :) This journey has been much more intense than I ever thought it would be. It has challenged me in ways I never thought possible. It has made me a better wife and mother... a better person. I still have a long way to go and many things I still want to improve on, but with John's help I know that I will get there. To be the wife and mother that my family deserves.

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  7. Congratulations on the two month mark. May your journey continue to be just what you want it to be.

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    1. Thanks sunnygirl! It seems we tweak TTWD almost daily... Just trying to find what works for us...

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