Thursday, February 28, 2013

The Smallest Gestures Speak Loudest to the Heart















Do small things with great love


I know that I have not yet responded to my last two posts and I promise to do so shortly.  I do appreciate all of your kind words, emails, phone calls, and chats.  


He had come home sick that day, which was something he never did.  I ran around taking care of the everyday tasks, kids' homework, picking up the house, and making dinner, as he lay on the couch.  I had stopped by the grocery to pick up what I needed to make him homemade chicken noodle soup, his favorite when he's ill.  I made his bowl of soup and delivered it to the couch along with a cold glass of Sprite.  

After we had eaten he laid back down on the couch and I knelt beside him on the floor.  We talked a bit and then settled in to watch some television.  I turned around and sat with my back resting against the couch.  He reached up and grabbed the hair that was piled on top of my head.  Slowly, he loosed it from the band and let it fall around my shoulders.    He began to run his fingers through it.  With each stroke I relaxed a little more.    It was a small gesture, but the effect was enormous.  I felt loved and appreciated.  The gesture probably meant more to me because he wasn't feeling his best, yet he chose to take care of me.  It didn't take much effort physically, but the effect was great. 





As I later spoke to a friend about it she said, "The smallest gestures speak loudest to the heart."  I'd like you to read that sentence again.  That simple sentence spoke volumes to me.  It has changed my perspective.  It is something I hope to always remember.  Every relationship requires effort, but it is the small gestures, when done with great love, that will leave a lasting impact on both the giver and the receiver.  






John and I have discussed things.  There were times that I "talked at" him and he has "talked at" me, but we refuse to stop talking.  We are communicating now and will continue to do so.  We are moving forward in this thing we do.  I hope to write about everything that has happened over the last week soon, but for now I am not up to it.  

22 comments:

  1. Hi there , That is such a lovely phrase, glad you had a good evening, hope he nis better now, love Janxx

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    1. I do love that phrase Jan! And thank you, John is feeling better these last couple of days

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  2. I'll repeat it here too - this seem guardedly optimistic. Which is a HUGE step up from last week!

    I'm beginning to learn that staying still does not mean there is no progress. Sometimes the progress is the fact that you aren't sliding backwards this time.

    Love you~ willie

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    1. I will not say the words you'd like to hear...

      Love you too!

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  3. I'm so glad P...and I'll second Willie's comment. The little unexpected things speak to my heart too. We are all so different but I also love when mine touches my head, plays with my hair, puts his hand on my neck...a small, attentive gesture that comforts me.

    It sounds like you are beginning to communicate and really hear each other. So excellent!

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    1. We are trying Susie. Communication isn't easy, but we are working on it.

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  4. I'm way behind in my reading here and elsewhere in blogland, so I missed what preceded this, but this post was really sweet. I totally agree that it's the little things, done with great love, that really speak the loudest to our hearts. :)

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  5. Sounds as if things are going well and now I want some chicken soup.

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    1. Well I'd tell you to come on over, but John has eaten it all! lol

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  6. Having your hair played at really does feel quite remarkable. :)

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  7. P, I'm sorry I am so late in getting to this. I'm so glad to hear that you are communicating and working together on moving forward. As Willie said, sometimes progress is the fact that you are not sliding backwards. I'm happy to see things are more positive.

    You are so right. It is the small gestures, like you making his favourite for him when he was ill. I too love it when Rick plays with my hair, rubs my back and neck etc. It makes me feel connected and loved and cared for.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Nothing beats the safety and security that those small gestures bring :)

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  8. Willie's second paragraph is very perceptive. We all have these times when we think everyone else but us is moving forward. But sometimes, we need these quiet times to reflect on everything that is good in our relationships, everything that is positive.

    Such a small gesture, but so important. I'll be if you look you can see lots of similar small gestures.

    I hope he is better now, and that you are both in a more comfortable place.

    Many hugs

    Ami

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    1. I think you may be on to something Ami...looking for those small gestures :) We are doing better. Thanks!

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