So this button got raves in my last post. Many of you thought it was a great idea to have one. It got me thinking. You can stop laughing now, as I'm WELL aware of how dangerous that can be. We all have "buttons". Some that trigger anger, frustration, irritation, memories (some good, some bad).
We also have submission "buttons". Those little things that our HOH's do that bring out our submissive nature. Not the mere acts, but the submission that occurs on the heart level.
As many of you know, John hasn't been feeling so well lately. We have been discussing little (or big for when he's feeling well) things that he can do to help me feel more submissive and him more Dominant. Last night he was feeling better and decided to try out a few things. WOW! That's all I can say. He started pushing buttons very early in the day and just continued to build on it. By the time we were ready to sleep, I was a giggly mess!
Against the normal format of this blog, where I just rant about what's happening/not happening in our life, I'm asking you the readers to clue me in on you "buttons". What makes YOU feel submissive? So come on! Don't be shy! Even if you've never commented here before, make an exception just this once.
There are several things that make me submissive. Simply just addressing me as "baby" or "little one" or baby talk in general immediately takes me into subspace. I have never experienced collaring before but I am eager to try with my master hopefully someday. My S/O used to make social cues like the wagging of her finger that would also send me into littlespace. Confirmation of simple everyday tasks and affirmation helps ease me into the mood. Since I am into abdl being told what to wear (unable to dress myself) is something I would like to experience. I have seen mittens which would immediately make me submissive knowing my hands are helpless.
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Hey P - Matthew used to do different things to help me feel that I was his.
ReplyDelete1. He would send me texts with "Remember. YOU ARE ONLY MINE!" Yes, in caps. lol
2. If we were spending the day at home together, he might choose what I was to wear for the day...usually only one of his shirts and a pair of panties. I could slip jeans on quickly if someone stopped by.
3. When we were apart, sending me a text with a task to do.
4. Sitting on the floor in front of his chair so he could brush and play with my hair while we watched a movie.
These are just a few that I can think of quickly at this time of night. Hope they help but I'm sure others will have better replies.
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I like these Cat! Especially the "YOU ARE ONLY MINE!" That's awesome!
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Hi P, Glad to hear you have been working on ways to help maintain your roles :)
ReplyDeleteOoh a fun question! hmm, let me think .... for me, it's gestures like grabbing me out of the blue and kissing me, fly-by swats. It's also the way he speaks to me. When he uses a dominant tone, or says things like "you are mine", "you submit to me" etc. I also love it when he asks (or should I say, tells) me to do something for him, like fix him a drink.
There's probably more that I could add :) But all of these things definitely push my submission button :)
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I'm glad you're enjoying this Roz! I too love fly by swats :) Makes me feel all squirmy!
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It sounds like your discussions are becoming a key role in finding the benefits of the DD dynamic in your relationship.
ReplyDeleteI can answer the flip side of your button question :)
It's difficult to lead a household and be a HoH sometimes. There are always many things going on all at once and although we wouldn't ask for one, there is never a day off. So, what melts my heart most of all is when my loved one looks up at me and simply says, "I love you, I'm happy, and I appreciate everything you do for me"
Nothing reaffirms my role more.
Thanks BB for giving a male perspective. I love hearing how an HOH sees things :)
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LOL P, I want to give you a great answer because some days I have all sorts of things that make me feel submissive but I am SOOO feisty today. My MM is far away and that is probably a good thing.
ReplyDeleteOH Susie! What are we going to do? Sigh...LOL!
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Hmm..lots of things really..sometimes that raised eyebrow look..."young lady"...asking me which parts of me belong to Him...kneeling for Him..a no panty day...a text with a surprise task...
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Oooohhh Abby! I like the "which parts...belong to Him" That sounds amazing :) And we (well I) just had our first no panty day!
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Although we don't practice the d/s thing, some of the things that really get to me are a swat or a pat on my bum in a public place, hearing a comment he's made to someone telling them how wonderful he thinks I am (the man has blinders), just giving me a kiss out of nowhere or just how handsome he looks when he's just showered and shaved. Best is when he tells me WHATEVER - it's a private joke.
ReplyDeleteI love private jokes Sunnygirl! They are such a great way to remember how special the bond is...and it's just between us!
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I like to be called a good girl. That always gets me. Sitting on the floor and letting Ian play with my hair or brush it - I love that, and it always works.
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Those sound great Lillie! I love when John calls me his "sweet girl"...ooohhh gives me butterflies :)
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For me it's the arch of the brow, the swats in passing and those moments he declares that I belong to him.
ReplyDeleteThe biggest "button" is when I've heard him pray and ask for guidance to be a good and worthy leader of me and our family. Brings tears to my eyes every time.
There is something very profound in having them be possessive that brings out the submissiveness!
Awe! Catrinka I love that he prays for guidance to lead your family. That's an amazing thing :) I too love the possessiveness...mmmmm
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Definitely the hand at the base of my back guiding me forward. I really love it. It gets me every time. Strangely I don't get that many swats in passing from Starman - but number one son is a keen bottom swatter! He does it to his girlfriend and also to his mother! Heaven knows where he has picked the habit up from. It makes us both jump! I blame it all on these male dominated households! Huff!
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LOL Ami! What ARE we going to do with all these HOH's!
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