Thursday, March 28, 2013

6 Months And Counting

Today is our 6 month DDversary.  It has been an incredible journey.  The highs have been intoxicating and the lows...well I've gotten intoxicated on more than one occasion.  We have learned so much about each other.  We have gotten much closer.  This has been one of the  best things we have ever done.  

So I thought I try something different.  Thought maybe some of you would like to hear from John since you always get to hear my side of things.  Here we go:

1.  What is the biggest change you have seen in our relationship?

Our communication.  Before we never resolved anything, now we are able to talk things out until we are able to come to some sort of resolution.  It doesn't always come easy or right away, but it's worth it.  

2.  Where have you seen the greatest growth in yourself?

My decision-making.  I never made any decision concerning our family life other than my own personal life.  Now I am in the position that I need to make decisions that affect everyone's life.  I have to think things completely through and can't be rash in my thinking.

3.  What is the greatest growth you've seen in me?

Your submission.  You always took the lead and now you've put yourself in the position to follow me.

4.  What is an area that you feel needs the most improvement?

Being more thoughtful of you.  I need to make sure that I take time to focus on you and just you and what you need and what you want.  I need to be able to read your body language, to be able to understand you better so that I can be better for you.

5.  What is an area you feel I need the most improvement?

Attitude when things aren't going exactly your way.  You have a tendency to digress to your old ways when things aren't going according to plan.  It's not at all helpful to our new dynamic, but it's something that we're working on.  

19 comments:

  1. Hi P and John,

    Congratulations on the six month mark! Thank you for sharing your journey with us.

    Lovely to hear from you John and I enjoyed your answers, especially the last two :)

    It's wonderful to hear you are seeing the benefits of ttwd and Rick and I wish you all the very best on your continued journey.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Thank you Roz and Rick. This definitely has been a great journey we have been on and I'm glad that my Beautiful Lady has shared it with you.
      John

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  2. Hi there, congratulations , loved the answers, especially that he knows he has to be more thoughtful, how sweet
    love Jan.xx

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    1. Thank you Jan. I have realized just by answering these few questions that there are still so many areas that I need to improve upon, but being more thoughtful of her is at the top of my priority list.
      John

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  3. Congratulations on 6 months and the growth in that period of time :)
    It's nice to hear from John! Might there be more Johns HoHs view posts in the near future? Wonderful answers John :)
    - MrBBSpanker

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    1. Thank you BB. We have talked about me being more involved with some of the future post, but nothing really concrete yet.
      John

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  4. Congratulations on 6 months of living this crazy life ;) I loved reading his answers to the questions....it is always fun to hear from the guys once in awhile! Here is to many, many more DD-versaries in your future!

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    1. Thank you Lucy. It is a crazy one for sure, but rewarding more so.
      John

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  5. Congrats on 6 months. All of life is a work in progress and you and John are negotiating the bumps very well.

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    1. Thank you Sunnygirl. Sometimes those bumps feels and look like mountains until we look back at them. However, I've learned that it's always a work in progress.
      John

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  6. Congratulations on 6 months :) And thanks for this brave and honest introspective. And actually - this was a noce tool to help you all evaluate 'the state of the union'

    (((hugs)))

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    1. Thanks June. This was a good way to evaluate things and show us what things need extra work.
      John

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  7. Congratulations to both of you on reaching this milestone in the beginning of your DD relationship! That's awesome and I hope that improvements still continue to come for you both! John, thanks for sharing your opinions and thoughts - always nice to hear from the men in our lives!

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    1. Thank you Christina. It seems like we just started but at the same time that we've been doing this forever at times. We have found that without continual improvements, things get uneasy around here.
      John

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  8. Has it been 6 months? Oh it only seems like forever! Oh wait that is us :). I am honoured to call you (both friends, even if John constantly says I'm 'not right' :) ).

    Ttwd has brought you closer in the past 6 months, and I know first hand that has not been easy, but this post has given you the opportunity to talk to John and hear his thoughts.

    On a more selfish note - YOUR journey has brought YOU into my life, and I am grateful for that too!!

    love ya! willie

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    1. Willie, you're not right! But yes it's the same here too. It seem like forever some days and like we just stared on others. And it has brought us closer than ever before.
      John

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  9. These are great insights. Happy anniversary. Keep up the good work you two.

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    1. Thank you TL. It's always a good thing to be able to step back and evaluate things. I guess I never thought to do this until P asked me the questions.
      John

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  10. Remember this P! On the hard days look back at this and see how far you have come.

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